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Thoughts For Valentine’s Day

February 13, 2018

Here is a past thought posted here again for Valentine’s Day

“Love Is A Many-Splendored Thing”*


“A man without a woman is like a ship without a sail. It’s like a boat without a rudder. It’s like a kite without a tail. A man without a woman is like a ship upon the sand. There’s only one thing worse in this universe, it’s a woman, without a man….” – unknown

Too often what we seek in another is what we want or need, rather than what we can give, or what we are needed for.  When you have met that someone for whom all you wish to do is give, you will have found true and unconditional love.

Do not fear that it will be a one-sided relationship. If that person is the one, then all they will want to do is give to you.  So by definition, both of you will be receiving without the expectation of a return for your giving.  Giving in order to receive often sets us up for the disappointments that eat away.

“Immature love says: ‘I love you because I need you.’  Mature love says: ‘I need you because I love you.” – Erich Fromm

“Remember that the best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other.” – Dalai Lama

“Love is the condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.” – Robert Heinlein

“You don’t truly love someone until you can take what they need to give you.” – David Suissa

In this giving, don’t fear losing yourself.  You will be enhancing yourself.  Your uniqueness, value, and purpose remain intact.  You keep it by sharing it with the other and vice-versa.

“Love turns one person into two and two into one.” – Rabbi Don Yitchak Abarbanel

“Two people, two souls, synergize the best in both and overcome the least in each.” – Chassidic Adage

Sometimes the wants block finding love using the excuses of geographical distance, age difference, financial desires, he or she doesn’t do this or doesn’t like that…., etc., rather than letting go and letting the love flow

 “Most people have a harder time letting themselves love than finding someone to love them.” – Bill Russell

 “We waste time looking for the perfect lover, instead of creating the perfect love.” – Tom Robbins

“I would rather have had one breath of her hair, one kiss from her mouth, one touch of her hand, than eternity without it.” – Nicolas Cage

Primary rule of a healthy and lasting partnership – communicate, communicate, and communicate

“Assumptions are the termites of relationships.” – Henry Winkler

What Love does

 “Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.” – Lao Tzu

“To love and be loved is to feel the sun from both sides.” – David Viscott

“You know you’re in love when you can’t fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.” — Theodor Seuss Geisel

If you have found that love, you know the above to be true and indeed how “Splendored” it is

Click here to read all of the thoughts in the Love section for Valentine’s or any tine’s

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* Title of the Academy Award winning movie and song.

Did You Say “Thank You”?

February 6, 2018

Another true story in the “Little Things Can Be Big Things” category

The speaker, at a self-help seminar, asked the members of the audience to think of someone in their past who had made a positive impact in their lives.  He then asked if they had ever thanked that person.  He said that if they hadn’t, as a show of gratitude, to do so as soon as possible .

This attendee thought of his eighth grade teacher, who despite his being a poor student, taught him to believe in himself.  That changed everything for him.  He recognized that he wouldn’t have accomplished all that he had in his life, without her inspiring him.

He was able to find her address.  He sent her a letter explaining all that she had done for him and thanked her.  He also mentioned that he remembered that everyone else in the class thought very highly of her as well.

She received his letter and wrote him back.  She explained that she was near ninety, never married, almost all of her friends were gone, she lived alone, hardly left her place, and was very lonely.

She went on to explain how much his letter meant to her.  She said that she had no idea that she was thought of that way, and assumed that she was long forgotten.  Her students were her whole life she said, and to know that she was remembered that way meant everything to her.  She said that she would cherish his letter always.*

Is there anyone in your life, past or present, who has or had a positive impact on your life.  Are you grateful to and for them?  Do they know it?  If not, what are you waiting for?  Stop reading this and go thank them!

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*I wish I could remember where I read this story, so that I could give proper attribution

A Lesson From The Road Runner

January 24, 2018

Here is another story to help keep you focused on your dreams and goals

The previous story gave the lesson from a Tightrope Walker, who reminds you to Always stay focused on the goal and yet still be in the moment.

Now let’s look at a lesson from the Road Runner

In the “Road Runner” cartoon, the Road Runner is always frustrated and being chased by Wylie Coyote. There is always the scene where the road runner is racing ahead and as he gets to the precipice of a cliff, he darts behind a bush without Wylie Coyote seeing. So Wylie Coyote continues the chase and doesn’t see that he runs past the edge.

Now visualize this scene of Wylie Coyote running with nothing but air beneath him.  When does Wylie Coyote start to fall?  He starts to fall when he looks down. When he looks down and realizes where he is, fear sets in.

Fear is paralyzing!!  Fear is one of the most common excuses/reasons that hold many back from realizing their dreams and goals.

Always look ahead towards your goal.  If you are not looking ahead now, you will be looking back later.

Never look down and let fear take over.

Never look back.  If you are always looking back your future will look like your past.

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Part of the Eye Of The Tiger series

A Lesson From A Tightrope Walker

January 18, 2018

Here is a true story to keep in mind.  It will help you stay enthusiastic and focused on your goals

This story takes place in a Soviet labor camp during the time of Stalin’s rule. One of the prisoner’s of the camp was Rabbi Menachem Mendel Futerfas. Being a Rabbi, he made it a point to get to know all of the other Jewish inmates, who were imprisoned there simply because they were Jews.

One of the inmates that he met was someone who claimed that he was a tightrope walker. The Rabbi was very curious to learn more, because he couldn’t imagine how anyone could accomplish this feat and why anyone would choose to do something so dangerous. In keeping with his belief that from everyone, there is something to be learned, he asked for an explanation.

Words couldn’t possibly give an adequate understanding as well as a demonstration could. This was impossible until the day Stalin died and the guards relaxed many of the restrictions. So the tightrope walker found a rope and attached it to the outside of two buildings about fifteen yards apart and about ten feet off the ground with no net. At first, he fell after only a few steps since he hadn’t done this in a long time. Then he confidently proceeded to dance across the rope, turn around and return. When he got back down the Rabbi asked “How do you do it?” The tightrope walker answered,

“It’s simple. Before I begin, I find an object on the other end and focus on it. I don’t dare take my eyes off the object while I’m walking. I don’t look to the right; I don’t look to the left. As long as I focus on my goal, I make it across”.

After reading this story, you might wonder, “if one is so focused on the goal, what about being in the moment”?

Again, think of the Tightrope Walker —– “On the one hand”*, he is focused on getting to the other end and that is his goal.  “On the other hand”* , in order to get there, every step must be taken with precision.

With precision and purpose!  In the moment – precision.  With purpose – to reach the goal.

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*  from “Fiddler on the Roof”

Another New Beginning

January 9, 2018

As we begin another New Year, we make promises/resolutions to ourselves with an eye towards reaching our dreams and goals.

We begin the New Year with lots of enthusiasm towards reaching those dreams and goals.  Inevitably, for most, that enthusiasm wanes over time.

There are lots of new beginnings.  There is a new year, a new month, a new week, a new day, hour, minute……  Each new is another opportunity to reignite the enthusiasm you had at the beginning of the last new.  If we celebrate each new as another opportunity, we can renew that enthusiasm and keep it burning.  So cherish the new of every new and especially every moment.  With every new remind yourself of your dreams and goals.  With those reminders you will keep the enthusiasm in the present.

 “The beginning is embedded in the end, and the end is embedded in the beginning”. – Sefer Yetzirah 1:7

For a new beginning to truly be a new beginning means not being anchored to the past.  It is an opportunity to leave it behind.  Leave the past behind, except for remembering the lessons you learned and create the present……Enthusiastically!!

Now with all that enthusiasm, remember that it is the Doing!!  “Wishing and hoping… and planning and dreaming”*,  – “Won’t get you where you want to go”**.  It’s the doing that will get you the results.

“When all is said and done, a lot more is said than done”.  — Lou Holtz

Happy and Meaningful 2018

* from “Wishing and Hoping”,Dionne Warwick

** from “Words of Love”, the Mamas and Papas

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Happy and Healthy New Year 2018

December 31, 2017

Healthy and Happy New Year!!

As we prepare for another new year, another new, another beginning, we look forward to all that we wish for.  The good that we wish for ourselves, is the good that we wish for others and vice-versa.

For this New Year, let’s do more than just wish.  Let’s plan on making this a “Happy New Year”.  Let’s make this the year where our deeds make our wishes reality.  A year where we tap into “all of our possibilities” and potential to be the human we are destined and created to be.

We have no control over what is sent our way.  To make it a happy year, let us focus on that which we do have control of; what we say and what we do.

All that we need and the world we all wish for is in our hands.

There is this story of a great old wise man, a seer, who was coming to a town to speak.  Many, many people waited with great anticipation for his arrival and then went to hear him speak.  Among them, was this one young and skeptical man, who went simply to challenge the wise man.  After the wise man spoke, there was a Q&A. When it was the young mans turn, he put out his cupped hands and asked the wise man what was in his hands. The wise man replied, “two little birds”, which was right. The young man was stunned, but he was still skeptical, so he asked whether they were dead or alive. The wise man knew that if he replied, “they’re dead”, the young man would open his hands and the birds would fly away. If he replied “they’re alive”, the young man would crush the birds in his hands. The wise man’s reply was

“the answer is all in your hands.”

Healthy and Happy 2018

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Happy Day of Giving Thanks 2017

November 23, 2017

We so quickly and casually say “Happy Thanksgiving” that we often miss and forget that it’s a day for actually giving Thanks. Of course, so is every day and we begin everyday with Thanks.

What are you Thankful for?

Who are you Thankful for?  Thank them!

Thank You for being a friend of The Spinning Rabbi

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