Breaking Up Is Hard To Do*

In the last week or so, a few people have told me about the sad breakups they’ve recently gone through.  Coincidentally(?), at the same time two people from different countries, pulled up this old post from 2013.  So I thought it was a message for me to re-post these thoughts on love with a little update and new title.  So here it is, with the original title

“Love Is A Many-Splendored Thing”**

Too often what we seek in another is what we want or need, rather than what we can give, or what we are needed for. When you have met that someone for whom all you wish to do is give, and vice-versa, you will have found unconditional love.  That’s the love that is true, pure, and everlasting.

“Love has nothing to do with what you are expecting to get – only with what you are expecting to give – which is everything.” – Katherine Hepburn   

“True love stories never have endings” – Richard Bach

 Do not fear that it will be a one-sided relationship. If that person is the one, then all they will want to do is give to you. So by definition, both of you will be receiving without the expectation of a return for your giving. Giving in order to receive often sets us up for the disappointments that eat away.

“Immature love says: ‘I love you because I need you.’  Mature love says: ‘I need you because I love you.” – Erich Fromm

“Remember that the best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other.” – Dalai Lama

“Love is the condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.” – Robert Heinlein

In this giving, don’t fear losing yourself. You will be enhancing yourself. Your uniqueness, value, and purpose remain intact. You keep it by sharing it with the other and vice-versa.

“Love turns one person into two and two into one.” – Rabbi Don Yitchak Abarbanel

“Two people, two souls, synergize the best in both and overcome the least in each.” – Chassidic Adage

Sometimes the wants block finding love using the excuses of geographical distance, age difference, financial desires, he or she doesn’t do this or doesn’t like that…., etc., rather than letting go and letting the love flow

 “Most people have a harder time letting themselves love than finding someone to love them.” – Bill Russell

 “We waste time looking for the perfect lover, instead of creating the perfect love.” – Tom Robbins

“I would rather have had one breath of her hair, one kiss from her mouth, one touch of her hand, than eternity without it.” – Nicolas Cage

Primary rule of a healthy and lasting partnership – communicate, communicate, and communicate

“Assumptions are the termites of relationships.” – Henry Winkler

What Love does

“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.” – Lao Tzu

“To love and be loved is to feel the sun from both sides.” – David Viscott

“You know you’re in love when you can’t fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.” — Theodor Seuss Geisel

Be Good Do Good Think Good Love Good Be Grateful  Be Healthy

*song by Neil Sedaka

** Title of the Academy Award winning movie and song.