Let Go and Be Considerate

 “We don’t always see things as they are, we see things as we are” Anais Nin

That quote has meaning and resonance on many levels.  In a previous post we looked at one of the ways – read here

For now, let’s look at that thought as it relates to relationships, whether romantic, friendships, or other.

It is true, that for most of us and most of the time, we see and hear things from our perspective only.  The key to a successful relationship is to take ourselves outside of ourselves and consider the other.   To consider the other’s perspective, so as to truly understand them and their needs.  In other words, to be considerate.  To be considerate is to be thoughtful of the other, not just when it suits you.

To accomplish seeing and hearing the other, requires among other choices letting go of your past, letting go of your hurts, and letting go of your fears.  It also requires, like Solomon, having a “listening heart”.

Here is a tip for training yourself to see and hear the other:

Constantly remind yourself

Everyone wants to know that they matter.

 “What is hateful to you, do not do to your fellow.” – Hillel

By training (it’s hard) yourself to see and hear the other:

1. You will learn more about yourself

2. You will find it easier to let go of the chains that hold you back, such as your past, your hurts, and your fears

3. You will create better relationships

4. And of course, be happier.

It’s a win-win

Heart and Soul