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Striking Out

February 26, 2015

Words are indeed powerful.

 “Words should be weighed, not counted.” –  A Jewish Saying*

We know of and should constantly be aware of, the impact that the words we say to and about others can have.  It’s also very important to consider the impact of the words we say to ourselves and about ourselves .  Our Inner Speak (see the Inner Speak series here).

What do you say to yourself when you strike out in your social life, or strike out in your dating, or strike out in a job search, or….

Do you say to yourself things like “I’m a loser”, or “I’m no good”, or…….   If you do that, then you will continue to strike out.  This approach becomes a self-fulfilling prophesy.

If you say to yourself, “I’m better than this”, or “I can and will do better, or…..   Then you are on your way to getting many hits.

Saying to yourself “What’s wrong with me” (a negative) is different than saying “Am I doing something wrong” (a positive).

“You become what you think, even if you don’t think so.” – Dr. Morris Mandel

The next step to improve your chances of getting a hit, is looking to see if you are indeed doing something wrong and if so, what you might be doing wrong.  Just like a batter in baseball who is having a bad hitting streak, he would ask himself and/or a coach to look at his stance, his swing, or is it just that he’s swinging at bad pitches.  Then once identified, correcting and improving it.

Always asking if you are doing something wrong when you’re not getting the results you want is a positive.  You are saying to yourself that you can, want to, and will improve.

Believe in yourself and your possibilities.  If you don’t, no one else will.  If you don’t, why should they?

You cannot climb your mountain by keeping or pushing yourself down.

  Heart and Soul

*see the “Words should be weighed, not counted” series here.

4 Comments leave one →
  1. Helen permalink
    February 26, 2015 10:32 am

    So true,but not always easy to follow!

    • Fred Fox permalink
      February 26, 2015 10:42 am

      sing along “Easier Said Then Done” – The Essex

  2. Steve permalink
    February 26, 2015 8:30 am

    Right on Fred! But the view of “I did something wrong” perpetuates the negative self speak. I’ve substituted the word Unskillful for wrong. We all do our best at any given moment. Just sometimes it isn’t enough. For me, I have to give out what I want in order for it to come back to me. The witty, compassionate girl of my dreams wouldn’t talk to me when I’m stuck in morbid self obsession. If I want to be surrounded by outgoing, positive people I can’t hide and sulk. I have to be what I want to get. But even when I’m not, I’m doing my best at that moment.

    • Fred Fox permalink
      February 26, 2015 8:54 am

      Well said, as always Steve.
      Surrounding yourself with outgoing, positive people is a worthy goal in itself. They help inspire and motivate you to elevate yourself. Choose people you are proud to be associated with.

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