Put Both Feet Forward

First impressions do matter.  This may not be the way it should be, but at least for now this is the way it is.  So keep this in mind for every first meet.  This could be for a date, informal introduction, job interview, sales call, etc.

Even if you get a second date or the job, you might still suffer from what is called “diagnosis bias”.  The other person’s perception of you will always be somewhat influenced by their initial reaction.  Do not fall into the trap of being a little sloppy and thinking it was okay because no one pointed it out to you.  Just because the person you meet doesn’t mention that your shoelaces are untied, doesn’t mean that they aren’t aware of it and won’t remember it.  Imagine if an actor came on stage and flubbed their first few lines, the audience will have a hard time forgetting that.  The actor can recover but it is harder than starting out well.

The difference between you and the actor, is that the actor is playing the role of another, you are playing the role of you.  Always present your very best.  After all, at every moment, with everyone you meet, in all that you do, you are always representing you.

The above is not to be confused with presenting yourself in ways meant to please the other.  Present yourself and represent yourself means to always maintain your dignity.  You present yourself, not necessarily to please another but necessarily to please yourself, by being your truest you.

While it may not be right for others to judge so quickly, being aware of it can be used as a reminder for you to present your very best.  Through practice and practicing of consciously presenting your very best each time, you will eventually do this automatically.

Until then, after every interaction, ask yourself if you presented and represented you in a way that you are pleased with.  If not, what could you have done differently and how will you remember to do that the next time.

Presentation Tips and Reminders

 “Character is a person’s only real possession.” – Rabbi Israel Salanter

 “Character is like a tree and reputation like a shadow. The shadow is what we think of it; The tree is the real thing.” – Abraham Lincoln

“True human dignity does not shout; it is a strong, steady voice that speaks from within.” – Simon Jacobson

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