“I Can’t Help It”?
June 18, 2014
How often have you heard your inner-voice say after you’ve done something you regret (perhaps again) “I can’t help it”. Or how often when someone calls you on something you’ve done that is regrettable, do you get defensive and say the same thing?
If you say that, then you believe or will believe that, and never improve. You will continue to perform the same way and excuse it away.
Change your mindset by saying to that inner-voice, “Of course I can help it, I am the boss of me”. Take charge. You know you are better than that. With this new mindset, whenever you do or say something you regret, say this to yourself, “I can do better and I will”.
“Nothing is impossible, the word itself says ‘I’m possible’! – Audrey Hepburn
You know that you were created with free will and therefore everything that comes your way comes with a choice. You always have the choice of attitude and response. Making the right and good choice is often the most difficult. The most difficult ones are the most important ones, so choose carefully. When you can conquer that which is most difficult, everything else becomes easier.
There is a story of a Rabbi, who whenever a child of his misbehaved, he merely said to the child “Es Past Nischt”. This is a Yiddish idiom which basically means “this doesn’t suit you”, or “you are better than that”. This approach can be a valuable reminder for you, that indeed you are better than your missteps. You can always do better. Whenever you are confronted with a choice, take the old ten count and ask yourself if the choice you are about to make “suits you”.
“Our freedom can be measured by the number of things we can walk away from.” – Vernon Howard“One’s only rival is one’s own potentialities. One’s only failure is failing to live up to one’s own possibilities.” — Abraham Maslow
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I enjoy your posts. I just can’t help it.
Very funny