The Three C’s

So you have decided that you really, really want  to make some changes.  Start by writing down what it is that you want to change and why.  Then apply the three C’s: Commit, Committed, Committing.

Then ask yourself, whether the changes are for improvements in career, or personal life, or athletic, etc., etc.,….. what it is that you want to accomplish.  Ask yourself

What is my overall goal?  Once  you have defined that, decide how you will make those changes.  Then Commit

Once you commit,  in applying those changes, ask yourself

What is the goal of my next action or words?  Is it consistent with my overall goal or dream?  If yes, then be Committed.

Have this as a checklist for your words or actions towards accomplishing your goal, before Committing

1. Does it meet the highest moral and ethical standards?
2. Is it my very best at this point in time?
3. Am I putting the Thou before the I?
4. If it involves others, is it kind and compassionate and did it also inspire and benefit them?
5. Does it elevate me?

Apply these tests before all that you do or say, until it becomes second nature.  Again, an athlete, let’s say a tennis player, is taught before taking a stroke; adjust your grip, pivot, racket back, bend your knees…..  The tennis player”s inner/silent voice goes through the checklist before taking the stroke.  The more the athlete practices, the sooner the action becomes second nature or automatic.  As it does that inner voice is no longer needed and it will slowly disappear.

After any action or statement, even after it’s become second nature, ask yourself if it met all the requirements of your checklist.  Imagine the joy and contentment you will feel as the answer becomes yes more and more of the time.

Imagine that others will notice, consciously or unconsciously and that will inspire them to do the same. We all need heroes, but it starts with ourselves. Imagine how slowly at first, then with increasing momentum the world will become a better place.

As you get closer to your dream, your goal, the top of your mountain you will inspire others, who will inspire others, “etc. etc. etc”  from the King in ‘The King and I”.

And remember, it takes time…..”Slowly I turn…step by step…inch by inch…

 “We know what we are, but know not what we may be.” – William Shakespeare

 “Be the person you want others to be.”   —   Rabbi David Aron

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