“It’s Too Hard”

We often hear or say “It’s too hard” to do such and such.  For now, let’s focus on the “too hards” that fall into the category of the “good and right things.”

Why are the good and right (good for others and you and vice-versa) things often the hardest to do?  We are in a constant struggle between our wants and our needs.  Our wants, which stem from the physical body, are those which feed our desires, our animal instincts, and our ego.  Our needs, which emanate from our soul, are those which continue to elevate us, help us grow and improve, to become who and what we are meant to and therefore capable of becoming.

Responding to all the temptations to feed our wants only, may bring some sense of short-term gain and fun but eventually “A person can develop a cold”, (From Guys and Dolls).

Feeding our needs will bring constant and sustainable Happiness, or Joy.

The winner between the wants and needs will be the one you choose to feed.  The temptations to feed our wants are ever-present and obvious, while our innate knowledge of what is right and good are often blocked by the wants, which is what makes them harder.  With free will, you get to choose the easier or the harder.  The easier not the better, or the harder and the better.

So again, just like the athlete in training, you must  focus your training and development on that which you find the hardest to do.  If they were easy to do things, then that means you have already mastered them.  The hardest are hard because you haven’t yet mastered them and need to for your continued growth.  Once you have mastered them they become more natural, easier to do, and harder for the wants to block them.  You can’t run, you can’t hide, so don’t waste time and energy avoiding.  The sooner you take them on, the sooner you will be stronger, healthier, better…Heart and Soul.  The sooner you will be ready for the next and the Happier and Happier you will be.

“The entire purpose of our existence is to overcome our negative habits.” –  Vilna Gaon

“The soul, like the body, lives by what it feeds on.” – J. G. Holland

“Start by doing what is necessary, then do what is possible, and suddenly you are doing the impossible.” – Paul Clegg

“It takes less time to do a thing right than to explain why you did it wrong.” — Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

Make a list of those things you find hardest to do, or you most avoid.  The ones that take you outside of yourself and reach out to another.  Then start to do what you can to cross them off.  Remember, words are and can be nice, but it’s doing,doing, and more doing……